Question in the Spotlight:
Should I wait until I have a partner to do tantra?
You really don't need a partner to do tantra.
There is no special advantage in doing a course with a partner as opposed to coming on your own. In fact, when people come as a couple they must still do their own work as an individual in order to bring tantra to relationship.
For singles, doing tantra is one of the fastest ways to go from being single to having a partner.
We see it in our work over and over again: if you want a partner, but don't have one, then likely something is-in-the-way-of-you-having -a-partner. This mysterious something, which we call your "hidden barrier", can be dealt with and released in one weekend. You will radiate a new energy that is powerfully attractive to others.
If you are currently in a relationship and want to attend tantra but your partner can't or doesn't want to participate, you can come on your own and get big, positive results to bring back to your relationship.
You'll get knock-their socks-off techniques for the bedroom; for deepening intimacy; intensifying sensuality; increasing esteem, love and respect.
So no, you should not wait until you have a partner to do this work.
Rather, do this work so you can have a partner/or a great relationship.
Well, that's the Spotlight Question for now.
All my best,
What Is Tantra?
Tantra is a body of practices that include ways to unite spirituality and sexuality.It is closely related to yoga. Tantra brings consciousness to sex and opens a doorway into sexual and spiritual ecstasy. Sexual energy is considered a resource to attain higher consciousness, an energy which accelerates human evolution, both physical and spiritual. Tantra does not expound any dogma and does not ask students to forgo their own beliefs.
Tantra involves methods such as breath work, movement, visualization, chakra work, meditation and exercises for sensuality, sexuality and intimacy.
How Tantra Works To Accelerate Your Development
During tantric lovemaking sex energy is 'refined' (by means of certain specific tantric techniques) into a higher energy frequency, or vibration.
When the human system vibrates at this higher frequency, healing takes place in the body, energy field and emotions--and spiritual transformation begins. Over time the human energy system naturally evolves into higher states of being. The goal of tantra, as of all yoga, is to reach union with The-All-That-Is.
What If I'm Not Spiritual?
Naturally not everyone is interested in tantra for the purpose of accelerating spiritual growth. Many people explore tantra to learn how to intensify sexual pleasure for themselves and their partners. This is a valid and important pursuit because bodily pleasure is a central component of physical, mental and emotional health.
Tantra is a great path for the sensualitst, the intellectual, the hedonist, the spiritual seeker-- and for the rest of us ordinary folks too.
What's all this bliss stuff about?
Spiritual-sex practices of tantra intensify and extend sexual pleasure far beyond the usual sex we experience.
In the process it also provides access to realms of being beyond the physical. In those realms lies bliss. "Bliss" may sound sort of "airy-fairy" but it's actually very real body-brain state. It's accessible, and the experience is repeatable.
Because tantric techniques produce repeatable results, it has been called a scientific practice. Do the technique, get the result.
Effects of a night of good loving can last for 24 or 48 hours. During long-lasting intense pleasure states, such as the extended orgasm, you body generates healthy chemicals which circulate throughout your bloodstream, and a dramatic increase of 'energetic charge' occurs in your energy system. The circulation of healthy chemical nourishes the body, repairs cells, and provides a sense of emotional and mental well-being
How To Get Tantric
There is a step-by-step path of study in tantra, a process in which a student learns new skills, techniques and attitudes.
Each level of skill you complete brings new pleasure and wisdom into your life, and prepares you for the next level of skills. So it continues: pleasure, satisfaction, and personal growth accumulate with each level of skill.
I invite you to have a look at our courses to see what could be of benefit to you!
FAQ's -- Frequently Asked Questions
What can I expect in a workshop?
The group is conducted in a circle with participants sitting on cushions on the floor, or on chairs for those who prefer that. There will be some lecture to quiet the mind and explain the principles and concepts of tantra. You will get an actual experience of tantra and being in tantric energies during the tantra exercises and techniques.
There are regular breaks throughout the day as well as a meal breaks. Snacks and tea are provided. Meals are not included.
Do I need a partner?
No, itís not necessary to have a partner. The media has focused on tantra with couples, so many people believe a partner is necessary. Tantra is foremost about developing yourself-- even when you do attend with a partner. Whether you do a course as a single person or with a partner you will forward your growth and maturity in the areas of relationship, sex and spirituality.
For singles doing tantra is one of the fastest ways to go from being single to having a partner. Tantra naturally has you release barriers to pleasure, love and intimacy; you begin to radiate a new energy-- which attracts new, different energy to you. One of the most common feedbacks we get is that participants find themselves -suddenly and surprisingly- powerfully attractive to other people.
Check out our testimonials about how people begin, almost magically, to attract interest.
For couples, practicing these methods will help dissolve barriers to love and open up new possibilities for deeper intimacy, pleasure and relatedness.
What about sexual orientation?
Tantric techniques work equally well for both gay and straight people.
Is there physical intimacy? Nudity?
No. There is no sexual activity or nudity in the classes. What you do after class is up to you, of course!
What if I'm embarrassed and don't want to do an exercise?
Our course material is tasteful, respectful and non-threatening. However, you do not have to participate in any way that you don't want to. We recommend you do participate 100% in everything-- because that is how you will stretch and grow, and how you will get your brekathroughs. Nevertheless we will support you fully in your choice of whether to participate.
Who comes to these workshops?
Most (75%) of our participants are referred to the workshops by their friends.
People of all ages and from all walks of life attend the workshops. Our participants are fire fighters, teachers, therapists, students, moms and dads, lawyers, cardiologists, pop musicians, nurses, sign makers, event planners, phone operators, paramedics, horse trainers (true!), florists, film makers, dance instructors, yoga teachers, mortgage brokers, real estate agents...Öet cetera!
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To Increase Intimacy
The how-to's of intimacy have escaped some people. But I have good news for those who scratch their heads when the word intimacy comes up-- and for their partners, too, who may have given up trying to get some!
Below is an explanation of intimacy, and a simple way to create intimacy.
What Is Intimacy?
Intimacy is emotional closeness. It doesn't necessarily mean having loving feelings. It does mean the ability to be with someone with an open and undefended heart.
This exercise will help you to create intimacy, even without words.
When To Use This Exercise
1. When you are angry or arguing
This is a wonderful exercise to do if one of you is out-of-sorts, or if you've had a fight that talking can't seem to fix. Your energy field is all spikey and turbulent and so are your emotions. Words can't calm things down.
However, if both people are willing, you can still generate closeness by going beyond words. In the following exercise you use breathing and attention (concentration) to calm your energy field. You have an energy body just as you have a physical body. The energy body interpenetrates the physical body and vice-versa. Think of the invisible magnetic field that surrounds a magnet. Your energy body creates a 'field' of energy around you.
After doing it you may find you are not so attached to your negative emotions anymore or feel more willing to work things out, or at least not make the other person wrong.
This non-verbal approach creates intimacy quickly. After 20 minutes of this exercise, your energy fields will begin to vibrate in harmony with one another.
2. This is also great to do if you've been apart for a while.
Doing this together brings your energy fields into harmony again.
3. Anytime, just to stay close and connected.
Even if you and your partner are getting along well, it's powerful to do this together at the start of every day, in bed as you're still waking up. (O.K, so maybe you won't do it every day. But at least do it on Saturday mornings!)
4. This technique is also something you can do before you make love, to generate closeness.
Generating Intimacy Exercise
1) Lie down with your partner in 'spoon' position (one person lies on their side, the other person lies on their same side, with their back snuggled into the other's chest. like two spoons together in the kitchen drawer!). Person in the back, place the palm of one hand over your partner's heart.
2) Pay close attention to your partner's breath, and then match your own breath exactly to it. Breathe in unison with your partner, making sure you make an audible sound as you exhale. Your partner has to hear you exhaling in rhythm with her/him. So check that you can be heard, and breathe louder if necessary. The effects are much stronger if your partner can hear you matching her/his breath.
3) Do this for 10-20 minutes.
4) Switch positions with your partner if you wish, and snuggle them into your chest.
Good luck with this exercise! I hope you get many years of use and enjoyment out of it. Now go practice ! Rock and roll!